Here’s what one SA member says on this:
In SA I use “same-sex lust” rather than labels like gay, bi or homosexual to describe my sexual and romantic thinking and behavior towards other men.
“Same-sex lust” more accurately defines and describes the nature of those feelings and activities. The SA way of looking at lust 1. helped me come to this conclusion.
The term same-sex lust leads me into the SA solution for my problem. Most other terminology took me further into the problem.
How those outside of SA decide to define or label their same-sex attractions and behaviors is an outside issue for me. SA does not wish to engage in any controversy about that (see Tradition 10) and neither do I. I’m grateful that SA is a place where I can put that issue aside.
- When we try to use food or sex to reduce isolation, loneliness, insecurity, fear, tension, or to cover our emotions, make us feel alive, help us escape, or satisfy our God hunger, we create an unnatural appetite that misuses and abuses the natural instinct. It is not only more intense than the natural but becomes something totally different. Eating and sex enter a different dimension; they possess an unnatural spiritual component. The addiction is thus to lust and not merely to the substance or physical act. Lust – the attitude itself – becomes the controlling factor in the addiction.